Snack #7: Escaping death and Neural Resonance


Someone's daughter tried to commit suicide. It happened right above where we were staying, but I don't feel like going there and helping out by offering support and empathy - my excuse is that I too had a meeting with death when my dad died, and I know there's very little comfort in words, sometimes not even in a hug, at least not for me.

People process things differently. I learned that even with practicing empathy many times a week, I don't always feel like showing it to others - more on this on the second part ahead. I know I have the capacity, I think we all do, but just because you can do something doesn't mean you want to - it is what it is, and that's OK. It's OK to not want to feel bad, it's OK to put a boundary for yourself if you know that crossing it will be draining and detrimental to you, and/or your mental health.